The arts are an integral part of South African culture, meshing our past, present and future into a single medium. At the recent Canvas and Community celebration, we got to imagine a South Africa that does better for the art economy.

Cape Town, South Africa (21 October 2024) — Art is an integral part of South African culture. For our country, it’s a story-telling medium that often merges commentary on our socio-political, history, heritage and questions of who we could be as a nation. It’s also how we honour our unique relationship with wildlife and our natural surroundings while visualising the problems these cherished parts of our environment face. And, of course, it’s a means to inject pride into our communities through murals and public art of different mediums. It’s our past, present and future meshed into a single field.

So, if art has such an important role to play across different borders of the South African experience, the question persists: how is South Africa supporting our artists? And, are we doing enough?

Canvas and Community: An Example of an Artistically Inclusive South Africa

Recently, I attended an evening dubbed Canvas and Community as hosted by the Century City Conference Centre, writes GTG’s Ashleigh. It was an evening any art lover would’ve adored; spoiled with excellent music (from a staff member who got to perform opera to the brilliant classical trio The Muses and Cape Town’s ever-talented Jimmy Nevis), secret ‘fashion shows’ and, of course, a lot of local art.

Fadiel Herman’s street-art-infused paintings, Jaret Loggenberg’s powerful portrayals of the female form and Logan Marlon’s designs were all on full display amongst other talents. The spirit of Soweto was ever present thanks to Moeketsi Moahloli’s mixed media works, while Sarah Danes Jarrett’s portraits left mouths agape (and not just on the paintings).

It was thrilling to see so many different art forms sharing a single space outside of a designated gallery, exhibition or traditional arts festival.

I couldn’t ignore the thought that this is how more South African spaces can and should honour the arts to whom we all owe such a big thank you for preserving and pushing our culture forward.

Local Businesses, it’s Time to Step Up.

Because local art is the tangible mix that’s produced once the South African melting pot is poured out, it only makes sense that it should be shared and appreciated in more spaces beyond those traditionally designated for the arts. There are, after all, only so many galleries and so many residencies available. But how do we grow the space?

One way to do this is for more businesses, especially those up the tourism and hospitality alleys, to invest in our local artists. This isn’t just a means for aesthetic value and measure; it’s a gateway for the world to see who we are.

When businesses become platforms for creative development, wonderful things can happen. Just look at the likes of Karabo Poppy, who is a master at merging her art with branding alignments.

Plug the Art Drain

Just as it is with many students part of South Africa’s ‘brain drain’ dilemma, many of our artists are forced to travel outside of our country in hopes that they’ll get better opportunities. The Free State Art Collective rightly shared that there is a big gap in support for local artists in communities like theirs, while showcases like Alchemy aptly indicated that local artists should be given the chance to claim the spotlight before they go overseas.

The bottom line is that if South Africa wants to boost our art economy, there needs to be a push to carve out spaces for it in other avenues of business. Whether that means from a showcasing and collection curating perspective, creative connection events perspective, brand and partnership efforts, or initiatives that beautify our spaces whilst giving artists a boost.

It matters, as so fashionably highlighted at Canvas and Community, because our culture does. Because we cannot be proudly South African without the arts. And we cannot have a thriving arts economy without South African businesses proudly making room for the patrons of our culture.

Sources: GTG

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Welcome to The Friday Five – your go-to guide for five feel-good recommendations to kickstart your weekend. From gripping films and addictive series to fresh music and local gems, I’ve handpicked the best of the best to make sure you’re always in the know. Ready to dive in? Let’s make this week unforgettable!

Johannesburg, South Africa (19 October 2024) – I’ve always had a deep love for movies, series, music, entertainment, and just getting out there.

One of the best parts of my job is that sometimes, I get the chance to experience these things before anyone else does. There’s something about seeing a movie ahead of its release, or getting hooked on a series before the rest of the world even knows it exists, that makes me want to shout from the rooftops.

So, with that in mind, I’ve created “The Friday Five” – a shout-out to five good things you should check out this week. Let’s dive in!

Movies for Your Watchlist:

Sticking with the Halloween vibes, I got to watch two killer films this week that’ll give you all the feels.

First up is Caddo Lake. When an 8-year-old girl goes missing on the mysterious Caddo Lake, a series of past deaths and disappearances begin to connect, unravelling a broken family’s history. The film kicks off with a slow burn in the first act, setting the scene beautifully. But it’s the second act where everything takes a twist – and trust me, by the third act, you’ll be questioning everything you thought you knew. The cinematography is stunning, and it’s one of those rare films that sticks with you long after it ends. There’s a line in the movie I just can’t shake: “They didn’t mean to leave us.” It’s haunting. Caddo Lake is now available on MAX and will be hitting cinemas soon.

The second film, It’s What’s Inside, is wild! The premise is a group of friends that gather for a pre-wedding party that descends into an existential nightmare when an estranged friend arrives with a mysterious game that awakens long-hidden secrets, desires and grudges. I can’t give too much away, but let me just say this – it’s one of those films where you’re constantly asking, “What the hell is going on?!” It’s a total rollercoaster. You’ll want to put your phone down for this one. It’s fun, it’s thrilling, and a horror ride you don’t want to miss. Now available on Netflix.

Series You Should Be Watching Right Now:

I was really excited for Doctor Odyssey – I mean, come on, Grey’s Anatomy meets cruise ships with Joshua Jackson at the helm? What’s not to love, right? Well, a lot, actually. It’s like a medical car crash at sea – you might want to give this one a skip but maybe watch at least one episode for the sheer absurdity of it all.

If you want to see Joshua Jackson in something that’s actually good, check out 2023’s Fatal Attraction or 2021’s Dr Death. Both are captivating, and Jackson’s performances are absolutely outstanding. You won’t regret it! Doctor Odyssey (if you want to give it a go) is available on Hulu, ABC, or Prime (to rent), while Fatal Attraction and Dr Death are both on AppleTV and Prime (to rent).

On the flip side, Disclaimer is absolutely brilliant! Cate Blanchett and Kevin Kline are perfection. The series follows Catherine Ravenscroft, a television documentary journalist who’s made a career exposing the wrongdoings of highly respected institutions. The direction is stellar, thanks to Alfonso Cuarón – you can really feel his signature style in the long, immersive shots. We’re only three episodes in, and I’m already hooked! It’s currently streaming on AppleTV+.

Music You Need to Hear:

On the music front, you’ve got to check out Mike Posner’s “Beautiful Day” (acoustic version). It’s one of those songs you’ll want to start every morning with. Posner’s struggles and near-death experiences inspired this heartfelt anthem, and it’s a reminder that every day is a gift. I can’t stop playing it on repeat – it just hits differently every time. It’s a beautiful day to be alive.

Another track you need to hear is Grace VanderWaal’s “What’s Left of Me”. Grace first wowed us when she won America’s Got Talent back in 2015 at just 12 years old. Fast forward nine years, and she’s found has found her name and her way. I honestly haven’t stopped listening to it. Grace has truly come into her own, and I’m here for it!

Get Appy:

Okay, let’s talk apps. Duolingo is an absolute vibe right now. I know it’s been around forever – I first joined in October 2013 – but I recently gave it a proper go again, and I’m loving it. I decided to switch from French (what was I even thinking in 2013?) and started learning Zulu.

After just three weeks, I’m actually having conversations with people! The confidence it’s given me is insane. Seriously, if you’re thinking about learning a new language, give Duolingo another shot – it’s like having a pocket-sized tutor. Ngiyayithanda.

 Places to Go:

Last but certainly not least, if you’re in or around Umhlanga, treat yourself to breakfast at The Oyster Box. This place is everything you’d want and then some. The breakfast buffet is next-level – we’re talking bottomless champagne, overflowing oysters, and a view that’ll leave you breathless. It’s not just a meal; it’s an experience. If you’re looking to spoil yourself or someone you love, this is the spot. Trust me, you’ll leave with a full heart (and belly)!

There’s so much good stuff to enjoy out there, and I hope my Friday Five gives you a little spark to check out something new this week. Whether it’s a thrilling film, a captivating series, a fresh tune, or even brushing up on a new language, there’s always something to discover. Life is too short not to indulge in the things that bring us joy – so go on, treat yourself!

Here’s to good vibes and even better entertainment!

Sources: Good Things Guy | Brent Lindeque | Friday Five 

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Victoria’s Secret’s Runway show came back after years. But beyond South Africa’s Candice Swanepoel and Tyla taking to the stage; the show left a lot to be desired:

New York, South Africa (17 October 2024) — Earlier this week, Victoria’s Secret made a ‘splashy’ return to the runway after several years away from its once iconic pink carpet.

Premised to be a new era for the brand that has had a massive influence on the relationship women across the world have with their bodies; hopes were high for the comeback show and all the freshness it might bring. But, VS is nothing if not a tease. And for many critics, if the show was supposed to be a tease for diversity, it unfortunately missed the mark.

As a woman and writer who has long been championing topics of inclusivity and empowerment, I have to admit that the 2024 reveal left much to be desired.

Many of the models were part of the same class who have long worked with VS (the Hadid sisters, Taylor Hill and, of course, the seasoned Angels like Behati Prinsloo and Adriana Lima).

There were new faces part of the show and iconic ones too (Cher, Kate Moss and Tyra Banks to name a few). And all of it was as glossy as it was when I watched it as a teen.

But in the spirit of inclusivity—which is where many suspected the show was heading—it felt a lot like waiting for the drop of a song that never comes. In fact, it was a lot like listening to an old song you haven’t heard for a while again, except with a few barely noticeable remixed notes.

While it’s damn-near impossible to represent every person of every body type, it also feels like tokenism to see only a handful of models who weren’t size 0 (many of whom did multiple walks). There could have been a spectrum of body-positive representation that gave us all a more organic idea of beauty across the board…but there wasn’t.

I’m not entirely sure what I was expecting. A little (a lot) more of a celebration of the idea that healthy bodies can and do look different? Female empowerment of some kind? Wings that actually attempted to uplift women? At the very least, they did break the ageism barrier the beauty industry is known for by featuring models who would’ve been considered well into retirement if this were the early 2000s.

Two moments made the show almost worth the watch, and they were purely because South African women took to the stage like powerhouses. Candice Swanepoel was as gorgeous as ever, while Tyla got to headline the event with the energy she’s won the world over with. I’ll also give a special shout-out to Cher’s performance because that legend is nearly 80 years old and still killing the game.

But beyond their time on stage, the show hardly brought anything new to the table. Perhaps that was exactly the point.

If anything, the show made me thankful that I’m older and wiser than I was when I first gazed up at the angels like superheroes and thought beauty needed to look that way. Thankful that in 2024, we can recognise it’s just a show and not what women need to look like to fit into the world.

And thankful that the younger generation of women do have access to more information on health and well-being to create informed perspectives on what was once deemed ‘the standard’ of beauty.

Sources: GTG

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October is Mental Health Awareness Month, and the experts look at mental health in the workplace; the reality is that we spend a large amount of our time at work, so understanding the good and bad is essential!

South Africa (17 October 2024) – Work can be a significant source of stress and poor mental health, but “good” work can contribute to better mental health, and the workplace itself can play a positive role in improving access to treatment.

The World Health Organisation (WHO) ranks depression as the leading cause^[i] of disability and ill-health worldwide. A 2016 study found that lost productivity due to depression-related absenteeism and presenteeism costs the South African economy an estimated R232 billion a year, or 5.7% of GDP (in 2016 terms), ^[ii] while the WHO estimates the global economic cost of untreated depression at US$1 trillion annually.^[iii]

With at least one in three South African adults^[iv] likely to experience a mental health disorder in their lifetimes and employed people spending the bulk of their waking hours at work, the South African Society of Psychiatrists (SASOP) has highlighted that the workplace plays a key role in mental health.

“Good, meaningful work and mentally healthy work environments are beneficial for protecting mental health as well as aiding recovery from mental illness. Prioritising mental health in the workplace not only improves individual employees’ wellbeing but supports organisational performance and economic growth,” SASOP member and psychiatrist Dr Siki Gwanya-Mdletye said.

Speaking ahead of World Mental Health Day which was hosted on 10 October, Dr Gwanya-Mdletye said that strengthening the mental health aspect of workplace health services could also offer an innovative solution to the country’s large mental health treatment gap, which sees 75% of those with common mental health disorders^[v] such as depression and anxiety going untreated.

The theme of World Mental Health Day this year was “It’s time to prioritise mental health in the workplace”.

“The workplace can contribute both positively and negatively to mental health. Work can provide not only a livelihood but meaning, purpose and satisfaction, while unhealthy organisational cultures or exposure to trauma in the workplace can worsen mental illness for vulnerable individuals.

“Given South Africa’s high prevalence of mental illness and the substantial treatment gap, the workplace can also provide a good location for structured interventions to supplement the under-resourced community level of mental healthcare.

“Such interventions need to go beyond feel-good pamper sessions and spa-days at work, as lovely as these may be,” she said.

Dr Gwanya-Mdletye said that a greater mental health focus in employee wellness programmes and workplace-based healthcare services held a number of benefits, starting with early detection and referral for treatment.

Early referral for primary-level treatment had been shown to shorten the duration of illness and improve long-term health outcomes, as well as reducing the need for costly specialist care or hospitalisation, she said.

Locating mental health interventions in the workplace also has the benefit of consistency in treatment, since workers go to work most days of the week and workplace health services would be an “ally in treatment adherence”, as lack of adherence to treatment is a major challenge in successfully treating mental illness.

“This approach also retains the mental health benefits of engaging in meaningful work, and enables those with a mental health condition to continue earning a living, remaining a productive member of society and maintaining independence and dignity.

“Given South Africa’s high unemployment rate, there are significant limitations in a unilateral focus on employees. Ideally, responsible work-based mental health interventions should broaden their reach at the very least to the families of the employees they serve, and possibly to their immediate communities if resources allow,” she said.

REFERENCES

[i] World Health Organisation (WHO). 2017. “Depression: let’s talk” says WHO, as depression tops list of causes of ill health. https://www.who.int/news/item/30-03-2017–depression-let-s-talk-says-who-as-depression-tops-list-of-causes-of-ill-health

[ii] Evans-Lacko, S., Knapp, M. Global patterns of workplace productivity for people with depression: absenteeism and presenteeism costs across eight diverse countries. Soc Psychiatry Psychiatr Epidemiol 51, 1525–1537 (2016). https://doi.org/10.1007/s00127-016-1278-4

[iii] WHO. Mental health at work. https://www.who.int/teams/mental-health-and-substance-use/promotion-prevention/mental-health-in-the-workplace

[iv] Herman AA, et al. The South African Stress and Health (SASH) Study: 12-month and lifetime prevalence of common mental disorders. SA Medical Journal, Vol 99, No. 5. 2009. http://www.samj.org.za/index.php/samj/article/view/3374

[v] Sorsdahl K, et al. A reflection of the current status of the mental healthcare system in South Africa. SSM – Mental Health, Volume 4, 2023. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ssmmh.2023.100247

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Despite their crucial role in ensuring the safety of vehicles in parking lots, many carguards receive little to nothing for their honest work. A small tip can go a long way in improving their lives, many of whom have to endure long hours under challenging conditions.

South Africa (15 October 2024) – We see them nearly every day, whether we’re rushing to the store to stock up on weekly groceries or heading to the mall for a weekend outing with family and friends. They’re always in the parking lot, ready to help you manoeuvre into a tight parking space or lend a hand with your trolley.

Car guards are the unsung heroes of our parking lots, tirelessly protecting our vehicles. Despite placing our trust in their care, we often overlook the challenges they face.

A Good Things Guy reader recently shared how she was appalled to see about 30 cars leaving a Cape Town shopping centre with only about four drivers tipping the local car guard. This is despite him having helped them with their trolleys and parking.

Upon having a word with the kind man, she came to learn that was a typical day’s work for him. He also isn’t paid a salary by the shopping centre and therefore relies solely on the tips of shoppers to get by.

The woman also discovered that he’d tried to find another job, but as a foreigner, it was difficult for him to secure work.

Much like this car guard, this is a disheartening reality for hundreds if not thousands of car guards across the country.

According to a BusinessTech survey that had 4,911 respondents, just under half (43%) indicated that they tip around R5. Just over a quarter (26%) indicated that they tip R2, while 10% of the participants indicated that they tip R10 or more.

Now, this is not to make anyone feel bad. But can you imagine having to survive on such small change, nevertheless supporting a family?

These relentless men and women wake up every morning with the hope that they will make just enough to make ends meet.

Hopefully, this can serve as some food for thought and a little nudge to spare a few extra rands to give to the man or woman in your rearview mirror.

Your generosity could provide them with an extra loaf of bread, some money for their child’s school shoes, or just a sandwich to help them get through a long (and, at most times, thankless) day’s work under the gruelling sun or harsh winds while they watch over your precious car.

Sources: Nothando Mthembu

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Looking for something new to binge, listen to, or explore? Welcome to my Friday Five, where I highlight the best in entertainment and experiences each week. From jaw-dropping series to thrilling movies and unforgettable albums, I’ve got your weekend plans sorted! Let’s dive into my top picks — you won’t want to miss these.

Johannesburg, South Africa (11 October 2024) – Welcome to the inaugural edition of my Friday Five, where I’ll be giving a shoutout to five things I think you NEED to check out right now — from binge-worthy series and unmissable movies to albums you should have on repeat, books that will take you on an emotional journey, and exciting places to visit.

This is a weekly series I’m launching to share all the good things making waves in entertainment and lifestyle, so let’s dive into the very first edition! Think of it like me inspired by Barry Ronge, but I’m that oke from My Kitchen Rules (who likes to attend events) and is influenced by BookTok and my Apple Music algorithms.

Movies for Your Watchlist:

With Halloween just around the corner, it’s only right that I throw some horror picks into the mix.

1. Blink Twice: Wow, Blink Twice is a wild ride! If you’re into horror with a side of psychological thrill, this movie will have you hooked from the get-go. There were scenes so intense that I literally had to cover my eyes (don’t judge me!), but that’s what makes it great. It’s packed with suspense, and every twist will have you questioning what’s real and what’s not. I’d give this one a solid 9/10 — a perfect choice for your spooky October movie marathon!
2. Speak No Evil: Warning: Speak No Evil is NOT for the faint of heart! This thriller had my pulse racing from start to finish. It’s easily one of the most uncomfortable yet brilliantly crafted films I’ve ever watched. The tension builds steadily, and by the time the movie reaches its climax, you’ll be screaming at the TV (yes, I did that too!). If you’re in the mood for a movie that gets under your skin and keeps you on edge, this is it. Perfect 10/10 for thriller fans.

Both of these movies are available to rent on AppleTV, GoogleTV, Prime, and more.

Series You Should Be Watching Right Now:

1. Agatha All Along (Disney+): First up, if you haven’t started watching Agatha All Along on Disney+, what are you waiting for? This series is a riot! We’re just five episodes in but it’s already shaping up to be the most fun you’ll have with your clothes on (I’m serious!). It’s clever, witty, and absolutely captivating, with each episode leaving you desperate for more. If you were a fan of the magic and mayhem of WandaVision, this show takes it up a notch. With four episodes still to come, there’s plenty of time to catch up — trust me, you won’t regret it! 10/10 for this entire show!
2. Nobody Wants This (Netflix): Now, if rom-coms are more your speed, then Nobody Wants This on Netflix is exactly what you need for a feel-good weekend watch. It’s the rom-com we didn’t know we wanted but now we can’t live without! The series embraces all the familiar clichés but turns them on their head in the most surprising and delightful ways. It’s funny, charming and completely heartwarming. If you’re in the mood for a little love and a lot of laughs, this is one to add to your queue. 9/10.

Albums You Need to Hear:

1. Chappell Roan – The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess: On the music front, Chappell Roan’s album (which is not so new but still on repeat) The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess is a must-listen. It’s bold, fun, and tells a story that’s both deeply personal and universally relatable. Roan’s voice is absolutely mesmerising and every track feels like a chapter in a larger narrative. It’s the kind of album you’ll want to play on repeat, whether you’re driving with the windows down or curled up at home.
2. Coldplay – Moon Music: Of course, no music list is complete without mentioning Coldplay’s new release Moon Music. This album is an absolute dream. It’s filled with atmospheric sounds, sweeping melodies, and those classic Coldplay vibes that take you to another world. It’s perfect for unwinding after a long day or simply getting lost in thought. If you haven’t given it a listen yet, you’re in for a treat.

Book I’m Currently Reading:

A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara: Now, let’s talk books. I’m currently reading A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara, and it’s one of the most powerful yet heartbreaking books I’ve ever come across. I’ll be honest: it’s not an easy read. The story dives deep into themes of trauma, friendship, and survival, and at times it’s absolutely gut-wrenching. While I’d recommend it for its beauty and emotional depth, be prepared — this is a heavy one. It’s a book that stays with you in every page you read.

Places to Go:

If you’re in Johannesburg and looking for a new spot to try, let me point you towards Paradiso in Montecasino. This restaurant is quickly becoming a local favourite, and for good reason! The vibe is energetic, the food is phenomenal, and the cocktails? Next level. Whether you’re planning a night out with friends or just looking for a great place to unwind, Paradiso has you covered.

And while you’re at Montecasino, do yourself a favour and catch Rob Lake’s magic show at the Teatro. It’s running right now, and let me tell you — his illusions are mind-blowing. It’s perfect for a fun night out!

 

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That wraps up this week’s Friday Five! I hope I’ve given you plenty of inspiration for your weekend — whether it’s a new series to binge, a spooky movie to watch, or an exciting place to visit. Let me know what you think, and feel free to share your own recommendations with me in the comments.

See you next week for more good things!

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Armchair therapists might not have bad intentions, but they can certainly stand in the way of actual progress. This World Mental Health Day, we take a dive into the world of armchair therapy.

Global (10 October 2024) — Until social media became an obscenely popular form of connection, casual talk about mental health was largely reserved for a therapy session, ‘woke’ media publications and (if you were lucky) a group of non-judgemental friends.

Thankfully, a lot has changed in a short space of time for humanity, to the point where (at least if you’re living in a liberal part of the world) you could freely tell someone you’re feeling anxious without the stomach-clenching fear that they’d think you crazy and try to pack you off to an asylum.

In fact, talking about mental health has become so popular, there are entire pages dedicated to the topic that have millions of followers, podcasts boasting just as impressive numbers and entirely new shoots of education dedicated to important fields within mental health.

It’s a positive change we’ve seen in our lifetime, one that’s taken us closer to empathy and further from disconnection. But, as we celebrate World Mental Health Day, there’s also a glaring elephant in the room: a lot of us are unknowingly becoming armchair therapists.

What is an Armchair Therapist?

Armchair therapists are people who are typically interested in psychology (or those who have even dealt with mental illness themselves) who then use their knowledge in ways that can become problematic, like diagnosing someone with no grounds to do so, accusing people of exhibiting certain traits without merit, or incorrectly giving advice on one mental health condition based on another. According to BetterHelp, these opinions largely come from the ‘logic and introspection of an untrained layperson’. Additionally, they can be guilty of misdiagnosing themselves.

‘That’s not me or anyone I know!’ You might think. But are you so sure?

How many times have you called an act ‘gaslighting’ without really understanding the term? Or deemed someone a narcissist simply because they talked about themselves a little too much? Heard someone jump to the conclusion that a person has an avoidant attachment style because they take yonks to respond, or told you that they probably have ADHD because they simply cannot tell a story chronologically? Ever diagnosed yourself based on a hunch?

Maybe you haven’t. But there are a lot of us who unknowingly have. And it’s a pretty big elephant in the room that stands in the way of mental health progress.

Why Armchair Therapists Aren’t Necessarily a Friend to Progress

It’s wonderful to be informed on a topic. In fact, it’s critical! But, when you start taking on a role you’re not qualified for (like a psychologist or psychiatrist is), things can get sticky.

Never mind the way it can lead us to become more biased and stereotypical of others; it can also give us a pseudo-sense of authority when it comes to our own mental health. Not to mention, not all armchair therapists are as informed as they claim to be, which means a lot of misinformation can be spread to trusting people.

The problematic part doesn’t just come in that you or someone you know might not actually have a certain disorder at all and are treating the case as such.  It also isn’t just that you might be acting as a bandaid of support for someone you care about when, in reality, they need professional care.

At the core, the issue is in really knowing what exactly you’re dealing with when it comes to the beautiful and complex beast that is your brain. Because if you don’t, or stand in the way of someone else getting support, healing and coping becomes a helluva lot harder.

Why the Armchair Therapy Phenomenon

We’re all inundated with content in the Age of Socials (which is its own Pandora’s Box of mental health concerns—yes, we’re looking at you Digital Addiction). So, it’s not surprising that we’re dealing with the Armchair Therapy movement.

And the algorithms feed this. Google whether you have an anxiety disorder just once, and suddenly your TikTok feed brims with anxiety-related content. Let’s not forget ChatGPT. Pretty soon, it’s turtles all the way down.

Additionally, because many psychological challenges share similarities—it’s very easy to confuse one for another when you are untrained. A great example that’s widely spoken about in psychological literature is the similarities between ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder (which can both be present at the same time). Or confusing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder with social anxiety and vice versa.

Another reason it becomes easy to play Armchair Therapist is that a lot of symptoms of mental health conditions are things most of us have experienced at one point or another, which creates a false sense of relatability. Think about it this way: we all need to use the toilet as humans. It’s something we can all relate to. But, if you need to go 40 times a day, every single day, something is probably afoot.

We Owe it to Ourselves and Those We Love to Point Them in the Right Direction.

As we take time to reflect on World Mental Health Day, it’s worth considering that openness and room to talk are the first step, but not the end of the journey. Just as it is with any medical condition, healing can’t really start until the actual cause is understood.

Seeking professional support is imperative in many mental health journeys, and the more armchair therapists who turn into allies and point their loved ones in the right, expert-approved direction, the more hope we have for a world filled with healthier and happier minds.

Sources: GTG; Various (Linked Above)

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When the news broke that Chris Brown would be performing in South Africa, the country was thrust into a passionate debate about redemption, accountability and the power of public opinion.

South Africa (09 October 2024) – It’s not often that a name stirs up so much conversation across South Africa but with the announcement of Chris Brown’s upcoming performance, the buzz has been undeniable.

The mere mention of his concert tour has sparked a nationwide debate, with people finding themselves divided on where they stand. Whether you’re a fan of his music or a critic of his past, the conversations surrounding his visit reveal more than just opinions; they’re sparking a necessary dialogue.

Since it was revealed that Chris Brown will be performing in South Africa on the 14th and 15th of December 2024, reactions have been mixed, ranging from excitement to outrage.

Chris Brown is no stranger to controversy. His talent as a singer and performer is undeniable but his past actions have left a significant mark on his career. The 2009 incident involving his then-girlfriend Rihanna, where he was convicted of assault, continues to shadow him. Over the years, there have been additional accusations of aggressive and violent behaviour, including altercations with other celebrities, legal issues, and restraining orders (filed against him). While he has continued to maintain a successful music career, these incidents have affected his public image, with many criticising the lack of accountability or reflection on his behaviour.

Many are concerned that welcoming him to South Africa sends the wrong message, especially in a country that grapples with staggering rates of gender-based violence (GBV).

South Africa’s fight against GBV is ongoing, and for some, giving Chris Brown a platform seems to undermine the work being done to combat violence against women. Critics argue that the country should not support an artist with a history of abuse, fearing that it could trivialise the gravity of GBV in South Africa.

“In a country like South Africa, where gender-based violence is a crisis, we cannot give a platform to someone with a history of abuse. It sends the wrong message and undermines the fight for justice and accountability, especially when he is performing 4 days after 16 Days of Activism against Gender-based Violence,” a social media user opposing Chris Brown’s performance shared. 

Despite the controversy, Chris Brown’s fanbase remains loyal. Many of his supporters believe that he has paid for his mistakes and deserves a second chance. His concert in South Africa also sold out in one day. Chris Brown has publicly apologised for his actions and has worked to move forward, which resonates with fans who admire his growth and talent. For some, his personal life and his professional achievements should be viewed separately.

One supporter on social media shared, “People make mistakes, and Chris has owned up to his. He’s been on a path of redemption, and his music continues to inspire millions. Everyone deserves a chance to move on from their past.”

This perspective highlights the idea that people can change and that one’s mistakes, no matter how severe, should not define them forever. Many fans are eager to attend his concerts and celebrate his music without focusing on his past.

The Three Sides to the Story

When it comes to the debate around Chris Brown’s performances in South Africa, there are three main sides to the conversation:

• Those in full support of Chris Brown and his concerts. They see him as a talented artist who has learned from his mistakes and deserves the chance to perform for his fans in South Africa.
• Those opposed to his performances in South Africa due to his history of abuse. They feel strongly that giving him a platform undermines the fight against GBV and sends the wrong message about accountability.
• Those who remain indifferent or are not engaging in the conversation. For this group, the concert is simply another entertainment event, and they do not feel invested in the broader debate.

Social media platforms have been buzzing with discussions surrounding Chris Brown’s upcoming concerts. Two petitions have emerged on Change.org, each representing different sides of the debate. One petition, titled “Stop Chris Brown from Performing in South Africa – No Stage for Abusers,” argues that South Africa should not host an artist with a history of domestic violence and has garnered over 16,000 signatures. The counter-petition, “Support Chris Brown’s Concerts in South Africa,” advocates for allowing his shows to go on, emphasising his talent and the belief in second chances and has garnered over 7,000 signatures.

While the opinions on Chris Brown’s concert are clearly divided, what stands out is the value of healthy debate. Discussions on severe issues like GBV, accountability and redemption are important for any society. The fact that so many people are actively participating in this conversation is a good thing. Debate fosters understanding, encourages reflection and can lead to positive change.

No matter what happens in December, the real victory here is the space this conversation has created for important issues to be addressed.

That is a start. And an incredibly important one.

Sources: Social Media | Change.org 

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With so many charities in need of public support in our country, the idea of donations has become something many of us get overwhelmed by. But, what if money isn’t all that counts? Here are 5 ways to make donations beyond cash:

South Africa (12 September 2024) — With so many charities in need of support in South Africa, many of us find ourselves in a tug-of-war of emotions. On the one hand, the growth of the charitable sector means a lot of kind-hearted people are taking action, which is fantastic. On the other, these charities need public support to keep doing the good they do, and even those of us with the best intentions simply feel we cannot afford to do so, especially at a time when going to the supermarket seemingly sees the price of eggs increase with each shop. Being asked for donations becomes overwhelming when we associate it with money. But what if money isn’t all that counts?

Take Lizelle Steenkamp who recently helped the SPCA Rustenburg out recently with a few brooms. A kind donation that undoubtedly has helped make a practical difference.

Or the people who donate pre-loved goods to charity shops that bring in funds for numerous organisations across our country?

In fact, the concept of donation is a much bigger term than what it’s associated with. In light of this, here are five ways to make out-of-the-box donations:

1. Items You Already Own

From old electronics to clothes hidden away in the back of the closet, most of us have items we don’t use that are rarely put to use anymore. Depending on their condition, they could be given a new lease on life when donated to an organisation!

Taking Care of Business’ repair programme is always on the look-out for old electronics, while our charity shops list will provide a great resource for where to send pre-loved clothes. Even old instruments have their place in the charitable ecosystem.

And if you’re not sure what you have would be useful, you can also contact a charity of your choice in a nearby area and ask them what they need directly. Chances are, you probably have something on hand already!

2. Connections

Connections might seem like an odd take on donations, but here us out. Like the recent story of Siphiso who received a life-changing successful surgery recently, it was connecting with the Angel Network that made all the difference for him.

When we see people struggling and asking us for food or money we might not have to give, sometimes the best thing we can do is connect them to organisations that can give them a hand up, and often a sustainable one.

You can go through all our charity lists, here. 

And in the case of charities that need connections—if you see a post on a charity’s page that you support and know someone who can assist, simply make the connection happen! There is great honour in being the middleman in these cases.

3. Time

Time is one of the best donations you can make to a charity. Whether it’s volunteering your time to help Ladles of Love serve the hungry, or opting to help PAWs-a-While as they help dogs get adopted; sometimes reaching out to a charity close to your heart and simply asking how you can donate your time in their best interest goes a long way.

4. Creativity

If you didn’t think you could donate your creativity, think again.

Crocheters and knitters have made a massive difference across a board of needs—from orphaned rhinos and elephants to destitute people and children fighting illness alike. Artists and writers also contribute richly to projects like Book Dash, all kinds of creatives have made the Night of 1000 Drawings a success, and bakers also use their creative skills in the kitchen to help children with cancer.

If any of these sound right up your ally, you can find links for them down below:

• Causes for knitters and crocheters to support 
• Book Dash
• Night of 1000 Drawings 
• Cupcakes of Hope

5. Awareness

Even awareness is a form of donation!

It’s the kind that’s helped find animals homes, has made fundraising campaigns successful and helped people in need get connected to those who can help them.

Awareness is perhaps the one donation everyone is capable of giving—from simply spreading the word to your community or being loud about a cause close to your heart online.

Sources: Ashleigh Nefdt 

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Cancel culture, born from a desire for justice, has become a tool of public shaming and swift condemnation in the digital age. As we grapple with its impact, the challenge is to transform this force from one of relentless judgement to one of empathy and constructive change.

Johannesburg, South Africa (11 September 2024) – Cancel culture. The term itself conjures images of public shaming and social ostracism. In an era where the court of public opinion often reigns supreme, the rapid descent from favour to infamy can be swift and merciless. While the intent behind cancel culture may stem from a desire for social justice, its execution often results in a wave of online vitriol and lasting repercussions for those targeted.

Just yesterday, I was at the receiving end of a stranger trying to use something I said online two years ago (and deleted two years ago) to try to humiliate me publicly and, I assume, ultimately cancel me.

But it backfired.

My post was not controversial enough for the masses. It actually wasn’t controversial at all. The context of it doesn’t matter. What matters is that this stranger posted my “deleted tweet” and then tagged me. The entire action was filled with maliciousness and ill intent.

Fortunately (for me), the post didn’t get the support they had hoped for, so they eventually backpedalled and deleted it. Had it gone the other way, a mob may have thoroughly enjoyed my cancelling process.

But this idea of “cancelling someone” seems to be all around us. Another day, another collective mob cancelling a person online but cancel culture is not a novel concept.

Throughout history, societies have punished those who deviate from the norm or do “bad things” in the eyes of a collective. Hester Prynne, one of the most famous and, we could almost say, first victims of cancel culture, was publicly shamed and ostracised for committing adultery and forced to wear a scarlet letter “A” as a constant reminder of her sin. That was in 1850.

However, the digital age has amplified this phenomenon, enabling mass mobilisation with just a few keystrokes. Today, a single tweet or post can rally thousands to join a virtual mob, ready to “cancel” someone deemed offensive.

Consider the case of Justine Sacco. Nearly ten years ago, Sacco, a New York-based PR executive, tweeted something highly inappropriate and offensive before boarding a plane to South Africa. She only had 170 followers. By the time she landed, her life had changed irreversibly. The backlash was swift, with hundreds and thousands on Twitter condemning her, demanding her dismissal, and celebrating her impending downfall. It was a digital spectacle, with people around the globe eagerly awaiting her response as if it were the climax of a gripping drama.

The story gained even more traction when Sam Biddle, a journalist at Gawker, picked up on the tweet. Biddle’s coverage catapulted the incident into the spotlight, ensuring that millions would see Sacco’s moment of poor judgment. Sacco was effectively “cancelled” before she even knew what had hit her, and her career and personal life were shattered in the aftermath.

But there’s more to this narrative than the public’s appetite for outrage.

The psychology behind mob mentality is both complex and deeply rooted in human behaviour.

Derren Brown’s four-part special, “The Experiments,” offers a compelling exploration of this phenomenon. Brown’s work delves into how ordinary individuals, when immersed in a collective environment, can be driven to perform extraordinary and often extreme actions. This shift is largely due to the powerful influence of group dynamics and the sense of anonymity and diminished personal responsibility that comes with it. In the “Remote Control” episode, Brown demonstrates that when people become part of a group, especially one motivated by a shared sense of righteous indignation, they are more likely to engage in behaviours they might otherwise avoid. It reveals that the collective mindset can override individual moral compasses, leading to actions that align with the group’s emotions and goals rather than personal ethics.

Sacco’s tweet was awful but the Twitter mob mentality left an echo that still reverberates in her life today.

It took a couple of months for Biddle to reflect on his role in Sacco’s downfall. In a moment of introspection, he expressed deep regret for his part in the public shaming, recognising the disproportionate impact it had on Sacco’s life. He realised he had become part of the mob and destroyed a human being’s life in the process.

“Not knowing anything about her,” Biddle wrote in an article, “I had taken its cluelessness at face value, and hundreds of thousands of people had done the same: instantly hating her because it’s easy and thrilling to hate a stranger online.”

“I realised suddenly that I felt very guilty about having, I assumed, destroyed another person on what was basically a professional whim. It had only taken half a year to kick in!” he wrote.

“It’s been my biggest regret,” Biddle admitted, acknowledging that his actions contributed to a modern-day scarlet letter scenario.

Cancel culture, much like the symbolic punishment in “The Scarlet Letter”, serves as a tool for public humiliation and punishment. Just as Prynne was branded for her transgressions, those who fall victim to cancel culture often bear an indelible mark that affects their careers and personal lives.

The question then arises: What will satisfy the mob? How much “cancel” is enough? Should we just sprinkle it liberally?

Or perhaps we need to question ourselves, understanding that we are both the mob and one moment away from being at the mercy of the mob. 

In seeking to hold individuals accountable, we must also be accountable for our own behaviour. Recognising that our online actions carry real-world weight can help temper the fervour of cancel culture, steering it toward a more constructive and less destructive path. Ultimately, the power of the digital mob can be wielded for positive change, but it requires a collective shift towards empathy, restraint, and a deeper understanding of the complexities of human behaviour. Only then can we hope to transform cancel culture into a force for genuine accountability and healing rather than a mechanism for relentless condemnation.

By reevaluating our role within the digital landscape, we can foster a more nuanced and compassionate society, one that values justice and humanity in equal measure.

One with heart and not hate at its core.

I am not exactly sure what that scarlet letter would look like – perhaps a massive heart filled with love and kindness – but I would gladly wear it.

Sources: Brent Lindeque | Good Things Guy 

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