South Africa isn’t just a country – it’s a living, breathing reminder of resilience, joy, and undeniable spirit. Despite our challenges, we are a nation that thrives on laughter, community, and an unwavering love for life.

Johannesburg, South Africa (22 October 2024) – Let’s be real: South Africa isn’t perfect. We’ve got our challenges – and plenty of them. But somehow, despite the ups and downs, we are an incredible nation filled with a unique kind of magic. Whether it’s the humour we use to laugh through tough times, our ability to “maak a plan,” or the warmth of our people, South Africans have something special that’s hard to match.

A tweet by ShellsPemBroke has been giving people all the feels. It’s a thread about why South Africa is so f**king great, and it’s still spreading like wildfire on X (Twitter). It’s the kind of feel-good content that makes you want to shout from the rooftops: “YES! THIS is why I love this place.”

Recently, Good Things Guy had the pleasure of sitting down with ShellsPemBroke, and if you think she’s proudly South African online, she’s even more so in person. She believes wholeheartedly that we are the greatest nation in the world… and we couldn’t agree more! Her tweet, which has become a movement of its own, started with just seven reasons why South Africa is so f**king great. But since then, people have jumped in, adding their own reasons, and the list has grown far beyond 100!

Here’s the original post that started it all:

“I am a South African. And I think we’re kinda f**king great. Sorry, but this is factual. I live in an underrated country. Here’s a thread of why I feel this way. Spoiler: you’re gonna hate some of these.”

Reason No 1: Us.

South Africans. That’s it. No sarcasm. No joke. We are THE BEST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD. You can make friends with literally ANYONE you meet on a daily basis. We really like liking people. Accidentally compliment someone’s nails, and you’re basically in their will.

Reason No 2: Potholes.

Say what you want. We are some of the most cautious and observant drivers in the world. At no point do we feel comfortable feeling comfortable driving. The lack of infrastructure means we could and should be on the set of Mission Impossible.

Reason No 3: Comedy.

OMFG THE COMEDY!!! Who in the world laughs at themselves as much as we do? Honestly? The world may be burning, but we are toasting marshmallows. How are SA comedians not more popular???

Reason No 4: The scenery.

F**k ALL THE WAY OFF. I mean. Come on. My sister does the hiking stuff and every vid she posts makes me damp in my pants. It’s not just Cape Town. It’s f**king EVERYWHERE. Urban chic. Mountains for days. Animals the rest of the world drools over. F**king hell.

Reason No 5: Zombie-apocalypse-readiness.

Listen, you know we’re prepped to deal without electricity and basic public services. When the world goes to shit, the Saffas will be claiming the planet. I can filter my own water, thank you.

Reason No 6: Sportsball!

Never EVER f**k with a South African and a placement or a gold medal. We take this sh*t SERIOUSLY. And we’re GOOD at it! Respect our prowess!

Reason No 7: It’s us again.

We’re really the best. Seriously, your mate, your family, your car guard, your waiter: they are all the absolute best. Take some time and find out. South Africans make South Africa. And we’re so f**king cool.

The replies started rolling in immediately, with people jumping on the feel-good train and adding their own reasons. Here are just a few:

“It’s the people. We are so f**king cool.”

“Because… us.”

“Chesa Nyama.”

“Don’t forget the wine!”

“We are a family. South Africans are siblings in the true sense. We fight every other day amongst ourselves. But try one of us and find out real quick.”

“Despite our politicians, we are blessed.”

“If I bump my own toe, a stranger will say sorry.”

“Hulle weet nie wat ons weet nie.”

“We are the best in everything.”

“Lalela!!! South Africans are the only country that starts a sentence in English and completes it in any of the other official languages. Kumnandi ukuba lana.”

“We have the ability to ‘maak a plan.'”

“South Africa is WAY underrated.”

“The food! All the food.”

“The Bokke.”

“We are free.”

“We know how to laugh.”

It’s clear that this list could go on forever. There’s just so much that makes South Africa truly unique. From our ability to laugh through the hard times to our deep sense of community, we’re not just surviving – we’re thriving. And despite everything, we remain a nation full of life, love, and spirit. The optimism in ShellsPemBroke’s tweet has sparked a movement of appreciation for this wonderfully complex, frustrating, beautiful place we call home.

So if you ever need a reminder of why South Africa is so f**king great, just take a scroll through this thread. You’ll find reason after reason to fall in love with the place all over again. And the best part? It’s growing every day – because there are just that many reasons to love South Africa.

Sources: ShellsPemBroke 

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The arts are an integral part of South African culture, meshing our past, present and future into a single medium. At the recent Canvas and Community celebration, we got to imagine a South Africa that does better for the art economy.

Cape Town, South Africa (21 October 2024) — Art is an integral part of South African culture. For our country, it’s a story-telling medium that often merges commentary on our socio-political, history, heritage and questions of who we could be as a nation. It’s also how we honour our unique relationship with wildlife and our natural surroundings while visualising the problems these cherished parts of our environment face. And, of course, it’s a means to inject pride into our communities through murals and public art of different mediums. It’s our past, present and future meshed into a single field.

So, if art has such an important role to play across different borders of the South African experience, the question persists: how is South Africa supporting our artists? And, are we doing enough?

Canvas and Community: An Example of an Artistically Inclusive South Africa

Recently, I attended an evening dubbed Canvas and Community as hosted by the Century City Conference Centre, writes GTG’s Ashleigh. It was an evening any art lover would’ve adored; spoiled with excellent music (from a staff member who got to perform opera to the brilliant classical trio The Muses and Cape Town’s ever-talented Jimmy Nevis), secret ‘fashion shows’ and, of course, a lot of local art.

Fadiel Herman’s street-art-infused paintings, Jaret Loggenberg’s powerful portrayals of the female form and Logan Marlon’s designs were all on full display amongst other talents. The spirit of Soweto was ever present thanks to Moeketsi Moahloli’s mixed media works, while Sarah Danes Jarrett’s portraits left mouths agape (and not just on the paintings).

It was thrilling to see so many different art forms sharing a single space outside of a designated gallery, exhibition or traditional arts festival.

I couldn’t ignore the thought that this is how more South African spaces can and should honour the arts to whom we all owe such a big thank you for preserving and pushing our culture forward.

Local Businesses, it’s Time to Step Up.

Because local art is the tangible mix that’s produced once the South African melting pot is poured out, it only makes sense that it should be shared and appreciated in more spaces beyond those traditionally designated for the arts. There are, after all, only so many galleries and so many residencies available. But how do we grow the space?

One way to do this is for more businesses, especially those up the tourism and hospitality alleys, to invest in our local artists. This isn’t just a means for aesthetic value and measure; it’s a gateway for the world to see who we are.

When businesses become platforms for creative development, wonderful things can happen. Just look at the likes of Karabo Poppy, who is a master at merging her art with branding alignments.

Plug the Art Drain

Just as it is with many students part of South Africa’s ‘brain drain’ dilemma, many of our artists are forced to travel outside of our country in hopes that they’ll get better opportunities. The Free State Art Collective rightly shared that there is a big gap in support for local artists in communities like theirs, while showcases like Alchemy aptly indicated that local artists should be given the chance to claim the spotlight before they go overseas.

The bottom line is that if South Africa wants to boost our art economy, there needs to be a push to carve out spaces for it in other avenues of business. Whether that means from a showcasing and collection curating perspective, creative connection events perspective, brand and partnership efforts, or initiatives that beautify our spaces whilst giving artists a boost.

It matters, as so fashionably highlighted at Canvas and Community, because our culture does. Because we cannot be proudly South African without the arts. And we cannot have a thriving arts economy without South African businesses proudly making room for the patrons of our culture.

Sources: GTG

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Welcome to The Friday Five – your go-to guide for five feel-good recommendations to kickstart your weekend. From gripping films and addictive series to fresh music and local gems, I’ve handpicked the best of the best to make sure you’re always in the know. Ready to dive in? Let’s make this week unforgettable!

Johannesburg, South Africa (19 October 2024) – I’ve always had a deep love for movies, series, music, entertainment, and just getting out there.

One of the best parts of my job is that sometimes, I get the chance to experience these things before anyone else does. There’s something about seeing a movie ahead of its release, or getting hooked on a series before the rest of the world even knows it exists, that makes me want to shout from the rooftops.

So, with that in mind, I’ve created “The Friday Five” – a shout-out to five good things you should check out this week. Let’s dive in!

Movies for Your Watchlist:

Sticking with the Halloween vibes, I got to watch two killer films this week that’ll give you all the feels.

First up is Caddo Lake. When an 8-year-old girl goes missing on the mysterious Caddo Lake, a series of past deaths and disappearances begin to connect, unravelling a broken family’s history. The film kicks off with a slow burn in the first act, setting the scene beautifully. But it’s the second act where everything takes a twist – and trust me, by the third act, you’ll be questioning everything you thought you knew. The cinematography is stunning, and it’s one of those rare films that sticks with you long after it ends. There’s a line in the movie I just can’t shake: “They didn’t mean to leave us.” It’s haunting. Caddo Lake is now available on MAX and will be hitting cinemas soon.

The second film, It’s What’s Inside, is wild! The premise is a group of friends that gather for a pre-wedding party that descends into an existential nightmare when an estranged friend arrives with a mysterious game that awakens long-hidden secrets, desires and grudges. I can’t give too much away, but let me just say this – it’s one of those films where you’re constantly asking, “What the hell is going on?!” It’s a total rollercoaster. You’ll want to put your phone down for this one. It’s fun, it’s thrilling, and a horror ride you don’t want to miss. Now available on Netflix.

Series You Should Be Watching Right Now:

I was really excited for Doctor Odyssey – I mean, come on, Grey’s Anatomy meets cruise ships with Joshua Jackson at the helm? What’s not to love, right? Well, a lot, actually. It’s like a medical car crash at sea – you might want to give this one a skip but maybe watch at least one episode for the sheer absurdity of it all.

If you want to see Joshua Jackson in something that’s actually good, check out 2023’s Fatal Attraction or 2021’s Dr Death. Both are captivating, and Jackson’s performances are absolutely outstanding. You won’t regret it! Doctor Odyssey (if you want to give it a go) is available on Hulu, ABC, or Prime (to rent), while Fatal Attraction and Dr Death are both on AppleTV and Prime (to rent).

On the flip side, Disclaimer is absolutely brilliant! Cate Blanchett and Kevin Kline are perfection. The series follows Catherine Ravenscroft, a television documentary journalist who’s made a career exposing the wrongdoings of highly respected institutions. The direction is stellar, thanks to Alfonso Cuarón – you can really feel his signature style in the long, immersive shots. We’re only three episodes in, and I’m already hooked! It’s currently streaming on AppleTV+.

Music You Need to Hear:

On the music front, you’ve got to check out Mike Posner’s “Beautiful Day” (acoustic version). It’s one of those songs you’ll want to start every morning with. Posner’s struggles and near-death experiences inspired this heartfelt anthem, and it’s a reminder that every day is a gift. I can’t stop playing it on repeat – it just hits differently every time. It’s a beautiful day to be alive.

Another track you need to hear is Grace VanderWaal’s “What’s Left of Me”. Grace first wowed us when she won America’s Got Talent back in 2015 at just 12 years old. Fast forward nine years, and she’s found has found her name and her way. I honestly haven’t stopped listening to it. Grace has truly come into her own, and I’m here for it!

Get Appy:

Okay, let’s talk apps. Duolingo is an absolute vibe right now. I know it’s been around forever – I first joined in October 2013 – but I recently gave it a proper go again, and I’m loving it. I decided to switch from French (what was I even thinking in 2013?) and started learning Zulu.

After just three weeks, I’m actually having conversations with people! The confidence it’s given me is insane. Seriously, if you’re thinking about learning a new language, give Duolingo another shot – it’s like having a pocket-sized tutor. Ngiyayithanda.

 Places to Go:

Last but certainly not least, if you’re in or around Umhlanga, treat yourself to breakfast at The Oyster Box. This place is everything you’d want and then some. The breakfast buffet is next-level – we’re talking bottomless champagne, overflowing oysters, and a view that’ll leave you breathless. It’s not just a meal; it’s an experience. If you’re looking to spoil yourself or someone you love, this is the spot. Trust me, you’ll leave with a full heart (and belly)!

There’s so much good stuff to enjoy out there, and I hope my Friday Five gives you a little spark to check out something new this week. Whether it’s a thrilling film, a captivating series, a fresh tune, or even brushing up on a new language, there’s always something to discover. Life is too short not to indulge in the things that bring us joy – so go on, treat yourself!

Here’s to good vibes and even better entertainment!

Sources: Good Things Guy | Brent Lindeque | Friday Five 

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Victoria’s Secret’s Runway show came back after years. But beyond South Africa’s Candice Swanepoel and Tyla taking to the stage; the show left a lot to be desired:

New York, South Africa (17 October 2024) — Earlier this week, Victoria’s Secret made a ‘splashy’ return to the runway after several years away from its once iconic pink carpet.

Premised to be a new era for the brand that has had a massive influence on the relationship women across the world have with their bodies; hopes were high for the comeback show and all the freshness it might bring. But, VS is nothing if not a tease. And for many critics, if the show was supposed to be a tease for diversity, it unfortunately missed the mark.

As a woman and writer who has long been championing topics of inclusivity and empowerment, I have to admit that the 2024 reveal left much to be desired.

Many of the models were part of the same class who have long worked with VS (the Hadid sisters, Taylor Hill and, of course, the seasoned Angels like Behati Prinsloo and Adriana Lima).

There were new faces part of the show and iconic ones too (Cher, Kate Moss and Tyra Banks to name a few). And all of it was as glossy as it was when I watched it as a teen.

But in the spirit of inclusivity—which is where many suspected the show was heading—it felt a lot like waiting for the drop of a song that never comes. In fact, it was a lot like listening to an old song you haven’t heard for a while again, except with a few barely noticeable remixed notes.

While it’s damn-near impossible to represent every person of every body type, it also feels like tokenism to see only a handful of models who weren’t size 0 (many of whom did multiple walks). There could have been a spectrum of body-positive representation that gave us all a more organic idea of beauty across the board…but there wasn’t.

I’m not entirely sure what I was expecting. A little (a lot) more of a celebration of the idea that healthy bodies can and do look different? Female empowerment of some kind? Wings that actually attempted to uplift women? At the very least, they did break the ageism barrier the beauty industry is known for by featuring models who would’ve been considered well into retirement if this were the early 2000s.

Two moments made the show almost worth the watch, and they were purely because South African women took to the stage like powerhouses. Candice Swanepoel was as gorgeous as ever, while Tyla got to headline the event with the energy she’s won the world over with. I’ll also give a special shout-out to Cher’s performance because that legend is nearly 80 years old and still killing the game.

But beyond their time on stage, the show hardly brought anything new to the table. Perhaps that was exactly the point.

If anything, the show made me thankful that I’m older and wiser than I was when I first gazed up at the angels like superheroes and thought beauty needed to look that way. Thankful that in 2024, we can recognise it’s just a show and not what women need to look like to fit into the world.

And thankful that the younger generation of women do have access to more information on health and well-being to create informed perspectives on what was once deemed ‘the standard’ of beauty.

Sources: GTG

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October is Mental Health Awareness Month, and the experts look at mental health in the workplace; the reality is that we spend a large amount of our time at work, so understanding the good and bad is essential!

South Africa (17 October 2024) – Work can be a significant source of stress and poor mental health, but “good” work can contribute to better mental health, and the workplace itself can play a positive role in improving access to treatment.

The World Health Organisation (WHO) ranks depression as the leading cause^[i] of disability and ill-health worldwide. A 2016 study found that lost productivity due to depression-related absenteeism and presenteeism costs the South African economy an estimated R232 billion a year, or 5.7% of GDP (in 2016 terms), ^[ii] while the WHO estimates the global economic cost of untreated depression at US$1 trillion annually.^[iii]

With at least one in three South African adults^[iv] likely to experience a mental health disorder in their lifetimes and employed people spending the bulk of their waking hours at work, the South African Society of Psychiatrists (SASOP) has highlighted that the workplace plays a key role in mental health.

“Good, meaningful work and mentally healthy work environments are beneficial for protecting mental health as well as aiding recovery from mental illness. Prioritising mental health in the workplace not only improves individual employees’ wellbeing but supports organisational performance and economic growth,” SASOP member and psychiatrist Dr Siki Gwanya-Mdletye said.

Speaking ahead of World Mental Health Day which was hosted on 10 October, Dr Gwanya-Mdletye said that strengthening the mental health aspect of workplace health services could also offer an innovative solution to the country’s large mental health treatment gap, which sees 75% of those with common mental health disorders^[v] such as depression and anxiety going untreated.

The theme of World Mental Health Day this year was “It’s time to prioritise mental health in the workplace”.

“The workplace can contribute both positively and negatively to mental health. Work can provide not only a livelihood but meaning, purpose and satisfaction, while unhealthy organisational cultures or exposure to trauma in the workplace can worsen mental illness for vulnerable individuals.

“Given South Africa’s high prevalence of mental illness and the substantial treatment gap, the workplace can also provide a good location for structured interventions to supplement the under-resourced community level of mental healthcare.

“Such interventions need to go beyond feel-good pamper sessions and spa-days at work, as lovely as these may be,” she said.

Dr Gwanya-Mdletye said that a greater mental health focus in employee wellness programmes and workplace-based healthcare services held a number of benefits, starting with early detection and referral for treatment.

Early referral for primary-level treatment had been shown to shorten the duration of illness and improve long-term health outcomes, as well as reducing the need for costly specialist care or hospitalisation, she said.

Locating mental health interventions in the workplace also has the benefit of consistency in treatment, since workers go to work most days of the week and workplace health services would be an “ally in treatment adherence”, as lack of adherence to treatment is a major challenge in successfully treating mental illness.

“This approach also retains the mental health benefits of engaging in meaningful work, and enables those with a mental health condition to continue earning a living, remaining a productive member of society and maintaining independence and dignity.

“Given South Africa’s high unemployment rate, there are significant limitations in a unilateral focus on employees. Ideally, responsible work-based mental health interventions should broaden their reach at the very least to the families of the employees they serve, and possibly to their immediate communities if resources allow,” she said.

REFERENCES

[i] World Health Organisation (WHO). 2017. “Depression: let’s talk” says WHO, as depression tops list of causes of ill health. https://www.who.int/news/item/30-03-2017–depression-let-s-talk-says-who-as-depression-tops-list-of-causes-of-ill-health

[ii] Evans-Lacko, S., Knapp, M. Global patterns of workplace productivity for people with depression: absenteeism and presenteeism costs across eight diverse countries. Soc Psychiatry Psychiatr Epidemiol 51, 1525–1537 (2016). https://doi.org/10.1007/s00127-016-1278-4

[iii] WHO. Mental health at work. https://www.who.int/teams/mental-health-and-substance-use/promotion-prevention/mental-health-in-the-workplace

[iv] Herman AA, et al. The South African Stress and Health (SASH) Study: 12-month and lifetime prevalence of common mental disorders. SA Medical Journal, Vol 99, No. 5. 2009. http://www.samj.org.za/index.php/samj/article/view/3374

[v] Sorsdahl K, et al. A reflection of the current status of the mental healthcare system in South Africa. SSM – Mental Health, Volume 4, 2023. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ssmmh.2023.100247

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Despite their crucial role in ensuring the safety of vehicles in parking lots, many carguards receive little to nothing for their honest work. A small tip can go a long way in improving their lives, many of whom have to endure long hours under challenging conditions.

South Africa (15 October 2024) – We see them nearly every day, whether we’re rushing to the store to stock up on weekly groceries or heading to the mall for a weekend outing with family and friends. They’re always in the parking lot, ready to help you manoeuvre into a tight parking space or lend a hand with your trolley.

Car guards are the unsung heroes of our parking lots, tirelessly protecting our vehicles. Despite placing our trust in their care, we often overlook the challenges they face.

A Good Things Guy reader recently shared how she was appalled to see about 30 cars leaving a Cape Town shopping centre with only about four drivers tipping the local car guard. This is despite him having helped them with their trolleys and parking.

Upon having a word with the kind man, she came to learn that was a typical day’s work for him. He also isn’t paid a salary by the shopping centre and therefore relies solely on the tips of shoppers to get by.

The woman also discovered that he’d tried to find another job, but as a foreigner, it was difficult for him to secure work.

Much like this car guard, this is a disheartening reality for hundreds if not thousands of car guards across the country.

According to a BusinessTech survey that had 4,911 respondents, just under half (43%) indicated that they tip around R5. Just over a quarter (26%) indicated that they tip R2, while 10% of the participants indicated that they tip R10 or more.

Now, this is not to make anyone feel bad. But can you imagine having to survive on such small change, nevertheless supporting a family?

These relentless men and women wake up every morning with the hope that they will make just enough to make ends meet.

Hopefully, this can serve as some food for thought and a little nudge to spare a few extra rands to give to the man or woman in your rearview mirror.

Your generosity could provide them with an extra loaf of bread, some money for their child’s school shoes, or just a sandwich to help them get through a long (and, at most times, thankless) day’s work under the gruelling sun or harsh winds while they watch over your precious car.

Sources: Nothando Mthembu

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Looking for something new to binge, listen to, or explore? Welcome to my Friday Five, where I highlight the best in entertainment and experiences each week. From jaw-dropping series to thrilling movies and unforgettable albums, I’ve got your weekend plans sorted! Let’s dive into my top picks — you won’t want to miss these.

Johannesburg, South Africa (11 October 2024) – Welcome to the inaugural edition of my Friday Five, where I’ll be giving a shoutout to five things I think you NEED to check out right now — from binge-worthy series and unmissable movies to albums you should have on repeat, books that will take you on an emotional journey, and exciting places to visit.

This is a weekly series I’m launching to share all the good things making waves in entertainment and lifestyle, so let’s dive into the very first edition! Think of it like me inspired by Barry Ronge, but I’m that oke from My Kitchen Rules (who likes to attend events) and is influenced by BookTok and my Apple Music algorithms.

Movies for Your Watchlist:

With Halloween just around the corner, it’s only right that I throw some horror picks into the mix.

1. Blink Twice: Wow, Blink Twice is a wild ride! If you’re into horror with a side of psychological thrill, this movie will have you hooked from the get-go. There were scenes so intense that I literally had to cover my eyes (don’t judge me!), but that’s what makes it great. It’s packed with suspense, and every twist will have you questioning what’s real and what’s not. I’d give this one a solid 9/10 — a perfect choice for your spooky October movie marathon!
2. Speak No Evil: Warning: Speak No Evil is NOT for the faint of heart! This thriller had my pulse racing from start to finish. It’s easily one of the most uncomfortable yet brilliantly crafted films I’ve ever watched. The tension builds steadily, and by the time the movie reaches its climax, you’ll be screaming at the TV (yes, I did that too!). If you’re in the mood for a movie that gets under your skin and keeps you on edge, this is it. Perfect 10/10 for thriller fans.

Both of these movies are available to rent on AppleTV, GoogleTV, Prime, and more.

Series You Should Be Watching Right Now:

1. Agatha All Along (Disney+): First up, if you haven’t started watching Agatha All Along on Disney+, what are you waiting for? This series is a riot! We’re just five episodes in but it’s already shaping up to be the most fun you’ll have with your clothes on (I’m serious!). It’s clever, witty, and absolutely captivating, with each episode leaving you desperate for more. If you were a fan of the magic and mayhem of WandaVision, this show takes it up a notch. With four episodes still to come, there’s plenty of time to catch up — trust me, you won’t regret it! 10/10 for this entire show!
2. Nobody Wants This (Netflix): Now, if rom-coms are more your speed, then Nobody Wants This on Netflix is exactly what you need for a feel-good weekend watch. It’s the rom-com we didn’t know we wanted but now we can’t live without! The series embraces all the familiar clichés but turns them on their head in the most surprising and delightful ways. It’s funny, charming and completely heartwarming. If you’re in the mood for a little love and a lot of laughs, this is one to add to your queue. 9/10.

Albums You Need to Hear:

1. Chappell Roan – The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess: On the music front, Chappell Roan’s album (which is not so new but still on repeat) The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess is a must-listen. It’s bold, fun, and tells a story that’s both deeply personal and universally relatable. Roan’s voice is absolutely mesmerising and every track feels like a chapter in a larger narrative. It’s the kind of album you’ll want to play on repeat, whether you’re driving with the windows down or curled up at home.
2. Coldplay – Moon Music: Of course, no music list is complete without mentioning Coldplay’s new release Moon Music. This album is an absolute dream. It’s filled with atmospheric sounds, sweeping melodies, and those classic Coldplay vibes that take you to another world. It’s perfect for unwinding after a long day or simply getting lost in thought. If you haven’t given it a listen yet, you’re in for a treat.

Book I’m Currently Reading:

A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara: Now, let’s talk books. I’m currently reading A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara, and it’s one of the most powerful yet heartbreaking books I’ve ever come across. I’ll be honest: it’s not an easy read. The story dives deep into themes of trauma, friendship, and survival, and at times it’s absolutely gut-wrenching. While I’d recommend it for its beauty and emotional depth, be prepared — this is a heavy one. It’s a book that stays with you in every page you read.

Places to Go:

If you’re in Johannesburg and looking for a new spot to try, let me point you towards Paradiso in Montecasino. This restaurant is quickly becoming a local favourite, and for good reason! The vibe is energetic, the food is phenomenal, and the cocktails? Next level. Whether you’re planning a night out with friends or just looking for a great place to unwind, Paradiso has you covered.

And while you’re at Montecasino, do yourself a favour and catch Rob Lake’s magic show at the Teatro. It’s running right now, and let me tell you — his illusions are mind-blowing. It’s perfect for a fun night out!

 

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That wraps up this week’s Friday Five! I hope I’ve given you plenty of inspiration for your weekend — whether it’s a new series to binge, a spooky movie to watch, or an exciting place to visit. Let me know what you think, and feel free to share your own recommendations with me in the comments.

See you next week for more good things!

Sources: Good Things Guy | Brent Lindeque 

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Armchair therapists might not have bad intentions, but they can certainly stand in the way of actual progress. This World Mental Health Day, we take a dive into the world of armchair therapy.

Global (10 October 2024) — Until social media became an obscenely popular form of connection, casual talk about mental health was largely reserved for a therapy session, ‘woke’ media publications and (if you were lucky) a group of non-judgemental friends.

Thankfully, a lot has changed in a short space of time for humanity, to the point where (at least if you’re living in a liberal part of the world) you could freely tell someone you’re feeling anxious without the stomach-clenching fear that they’d think you crazy and try to pack you off to an asylum.

In fact, talking about mental health has become so popular, there are entire pages dedicated to the topic that have millions of followers, podcasts boasting just as impressive numbers and entirely new shoots of education dedicated to important fields within mental health.

It’s a positive change we’ve seen in our lifetime, one that’s taken us closer to empathy and further from disconnection. But, as we celebrate World Mental Health Day, there’s also a glaring elephant in the room: a lot of us are unknowingly becoming armchair therapists.

What is an Armchair Therapist?

Armchair therapists are people who are typically interested in psychology (or those who have even dealt with mental illness themselves) who then use their knowledge in ways that can become problematic, like diagnosing someone with no grounds to do so, accusing people of exhibiting certain traits without merit, or incorrectly giving advice on one mental health condition based on another. According to BetterHelp, these opinions largely come from the ‘logic and introspection of an untrained layperson’. Additionally, they can be guilty of misdiagnosing themselves.

‘That’s not me or anyone I know!’ You might think. But are you so sure?

How many times have you called an act ‘gaslighting’ without really understanding the term? Or deemed someone a narcissist simply because they talked about themselves a little too much? Heard someone jump to the conclusion that a person has an avoidant attachment style because they take yonks to respond, or told you that they probably have ADHD because they simply cannot tell a story chronologically? Ever diagnosed yourself based on a hunch?

Maybe you haven’t. But there are a lot of us who unknowingly have. And it’s a pretty big elephant in the room that stands in the way of mental health progress.

Why Armchair Therapists Aren’t Necessarily a Friend to Progress

It’s wonderful to be informed on a topic. In fact, it’s critical! But, when you start taking on a role you’re not qualified for (like a psychologist or psychiatrist is), things can get sticky.

Never mind the way it can lead us to become more biased and stereotypical of others; it can also give us a pseudo-sense of authority when it comes to our own mental health. Not to mention, not all armchair therapists are as informed as they claim to be, which means a lot of misinformation can be spread to trusting people.

The problematic part doesn’t just come in that you or someone you know might not actually have a certain disorder at all and are treating the case as such.  It also isn’t just that you might be acting as a bandaid of support for someone you care about when, in reality, they need professional care.

At the core, the issue is in really knowing what exactly you’re dealing with when it comes to the beautiful and complex beast that is your brain. Because if you don’t, or stand in the way of someone else getting support, healing and coping becomes a helluva lot harder.

Why the Armchair Therapy Phenomenon

We’re all inundated with content in the Age of Socials (which is its own Pandora’s Box of mental health concerns—yes, we’re looking at you Digital Addiction). So, it’s not surprising that we’re dealing with the Armchair Therapy movement.

And the algorithms feed this. Google whether you have an anxiety disorder just once, and suddenly your TikTok feed brims with anxiety-related content. Let’s not forget ChatGPT. Pretty soon, it’s turtles all the way down.

Additionally, because many psychological challenges share similarities—it’s very easy to confuse one for another when you are untrained. A great example that’s widely spoken about in psychological literature is the similarities between ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder (which can both be present at the same time). Or confusing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder with social anxiety and vice versa.

Another reason it becomes easy to play Armchair Therapist is that a lot of symptoms of mental health conditions are things most of us have experienced at one point or another, which creates a false sense of relatability. Think about it this way: we all need to use the toilet as humans. It’s something we can all relate to. But, if you need to go 40 times a day, every single day, something is probably afoot.

We Owe it to Ourselves and Those We Love to Point Them in the Right Direction.

As we take time to reflect on World Mental Health Day, it’s worth considering that openness and room to talk are the first step, but not the end of the journey. Just as it is with any medical condition, healing can’t really start until the actual cause is understood.

Seeking professional support is imperative in many mental health journeys, and the more armchair therapists who turn into allies and point their loved ones in the right, expert-approved direction, the more hope we have for a world filled with healthier and happier minds.

Sources: GTG; Various (Linked Above)

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Postpartum depression, often shrouded in misunderstanding and stigma, is a silent struggle faced by many new mothers. With World Mental Health Day approaching, it’s important for us to inform ourselves about mothers’ mental and emotional well-being as opposed to passing judgment or looking the other way.

South Africa (09 October 2024) – It is Mental Health Awareness Month, and while the term “mental health” has come to be widely used, it is still a subject that is wildly misunderstood due to its complexities.

That is why we are so grateful for educational platforms such as the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) and experts who shed light on relevant mental health topics that can help us better understand our emotions, challenges, stresses and how we show up for our loved ones.

One of many important mental health topics is Postpartum Depression (PPD), which can so easily be considered as bad parenting or a lack of love or maternal instinct from a new mom.

A mother’s silent struggle

Motherhood is a beautiful journey for both the mum and her little one, but it is also a demanding, life-altering one that comes with a rollercoaster of other emotions, physical and hormonal changes, as well as unexpected challenges.

While trying to nurture a new baby, oftentimes, the mom is still required to show up for the different areas of her life as if she hasn’t undergone a major life change. Many can feel like being too tired, struggling or being overstimulated is a bad thing due to the pressures of being “a great mother” or failing to show up as one.

Touching on the topic of new moms navigating mental health challenges and the stigma attached to it, SADAG shared a Glamour article on insights into PPD by Dr Bavi Vythilingum, a psychiatrist specialising in women’s Mental Health at Netcare Akeso Kenilworth.

According to Vythilingum, the most common features of PPD are feeling down or low, feeling bad about yourself, not being able to bond with the baby, or not being interested in the baby.

“Women with postpartum depression are often seen as being bad mothers or not grateful enough for their new baby.

“It’s important to note that this is not true and the hallmarks of clinical depression, including feelings of apathy, helplessness and hopelessness, affect the mother’s ability to mother. Once perinatal or post-partum depression is identified, there are highly effective treatment options,” the psychiatrist says.

Vythilingum also states that PPD can cause a lot of anxiety for mothers regarding their babies. It can lead to difficulty sleeping, even when the baby is asleep. They may feel low and apathetic, and this often hinders their ability to care for themselves and their child.

Breaking the stigma surrounding PPD

Many of us have heard about “childhood traumas” and Vythilingum also touches on how PPD can severely affect the mother’s children, particularly as they become young adults. So it is important to address the mother’s well-being to avoid a cycle of mental health issues in her family.

Love and care are key! The healthcare expert stresses the importance of loved ones supporting new moms experiencing PPD. This can look like seeking professional help from your obstetrician/gynaecologist or mental health professional.

They can provide a proper assessment and start treatment, helping mothers overcome this challenge and begin a journey of healing and resilience!

Sources: SADAG / Glamour

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When the news broke that Chris Brown would be performing in South Africa, the country was thrust into a passionate debate about redemption, accountability and the power of public opinion.

South Africa (09 October 2024) – It’s not often that a name stirs up so much conversation across South Africa but with the announcement of Chris Brown’s upcoming performance, the buzz has been undeniable.

The mere mention of his concert tour has sparked a nationwide debate, with people finding themselves divided on where they stand. Whether you’re a fan of his music or a critic of his past, the conversations surrounding his visit reveal more than just opinions; they’re sparking a necessary dialogue.

Since it was revealed that Chris Brown will be performing in South Africa on the 14th and 15th of December 2024, reactions have been mixed, ranging from excitement to outrage.

Chris Brown is no stranger to controversy. His talent as a singer and performer is undeniable but his past actions have left a significant mark on his career. The 2009 incident involving his then-girlfriend Rihanna, where he was convicted of assault, continues to shadow him. Over the years, there have been additional accusations of aggressive and violent behaviour, including altercations with other celebrities, legal issues, and restraining orders (filed against him). While he has continued to maintain a successful music career, these incidents have affected his public image, with many criticising the lack of accountability or reflection on his behaviour.

Many are concerned that welcoming him to South Africa sends the wrong message, especially in a country that grapples with staggering rates of gender-based violence (GBV).

South Africa’s fight against GBV is ongoing, and for some, giving Chris Brown a platform seems to undermine the work being done to combat violence against women. Critics argue that the country should not support an artist with a history of abuse, fearing that it could trivialise the gravity of GBV in South Africa.

“In a country like South Africa, where gender-based violence is a crisis, we cannot give a platform to someone with a history of abuse. It sends the wrong message and undermines the fight for justice and accountability, especially when he is performing 4 days after 16 Days of Activism against Gender-based Violence,” a social media user opposing Chris Brown’s performance shared. 

Despite the controversy, Chris Brown’s fanbase remains loyal. Many of his supporters believe that he has paid for his mistakes and deserves a second chance. His concert in South Africa also sold out in one day. Chris Brown has publicly apologised for his actions and has worked to move forward, which resonates with fans who admire his growth and talent. For some, his personal life and his professional achievements should be viewed separately.

One supporter on social media shared, “People make mistakes, and Chris has owned up to his. He’s been on a path of redemption, and his music continues to inspire millions. Everyone deserves a chance to move on from their past.”

This perspective highlights the idea that people can change and that one’s mistakes, no matter how severe, should not define them forever. Many fans are eager to attend his concerts and celebrate his music without focusing on his past.

The Three Sides to the Story

When it comes to the debate around Chris Brown’s performances in South Africa, there are three main sides to the conversation:

• Those in full support of Chris Brown and his concerts. They see him as a talented artist who has learned from his mistakes and deserves the chance to perform for his fans in South Africa.
• Those opposed to his performances in South Africa due to his history of abuse. They feel strongly that giving him a platform undermines the fight against GBV and sends the wrong message about accountability.
• Those who remain indifferent or are not engaging in the conversation. For this group, the concert is simply another entertainment event, and they do not feel invested in the broader debate.

Social media platforms have been buzzing with discussions surrounding Chris Brown’s upcoming concerts. Two petitions have emerged on Change.org, each representing different sides of the debate. One petition, titled “Stop Chris Brown from Performing in South Africa – No Stage for Abusers,” argues that South Africa should not host an artist with a history of domestic violence and has garnered over 16,000 signatures. The counter-petition, “Support Chris Brown’s Concerts in South Africa,” advocates for allowing his shows to go on, emphasising his talent and the belief in second chances and has garnered over 7,000 signatures.

While the opinions on Chris Brown’s concert are clearly divided, what stands out is the value of healthy debate. Discussions on severe issues like GBV, accountability and redemption are important for any society. The fact that so many people are actively participating in this conversation is a good thing. Debate fosters understanding, encourages reflection and can lead to positive change.

No matter what happens in December, the real victory here is the space this conversation has created for important issues to be addressed.

That is a start. And an incredibly important one.

Sources: Social Media | Change.org 

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